Burned Boats

The Old Man and I went into parenthood overconfident.  He assured me that the army had trained him well to cope with sleep deprivation and I was pretty convinced that all of my years working with children had prepared me well for what was ahead of us.  I had done 40+ hour weeks in childcare.  I had done entire weekends of childcare for parent getaways.  I knew this business well!  The Old Man had gone five days with 12 hours of sleep and ample coffee.  He knew the ins and outs of fatigue. By the time Sissy was 6 weeks old we were complete train wrecks.  We couldn’t get her to sleep like the umpteen baby books said she should.  The end of sleep deprivation was nowhere in sight.  We were a bit stumped about why the world was not filled with only one-child families, because this was brutal.   In hindsight, we had failed to consider the infinite nature of parenthood (a minor detail).  We had dealt with aspects of child rearing for very finite periods of time and could always return to our quiet apartment to seek personal space, time, and uninterrupted sleep at the end of it.

Similarly, we went into this bike tour overconfident.  We read all the books, did a two-week test run in the San Juan Islands over the summer, joined the Adventure Cycling Association, and war-gamed the seasonal weather trends with our route options.  Yet despite all that great planning, we were snowed out of Snoqualmie Pass and encountered repeated delays from passing squalls, fog, or soggy morale along our detour through Oregon.  We assured ourselves that we fully understood the quality of life compromises we were making in terms of creature comforts and personal hygiene based on our finite, summer, island experience.  During which time we always knew we would soon be returning to ‘normal’ life.  Now enter the infinite: today we reached day 3 of no bathing (again), which adds body odor to a body that is already sticky from multiple layers of sunscreen and sweat.  We are three weeks into it and we have definitely had some moments of train wreckage, at times revisiting the reasons we chose this.

A few weeks before we left Seattle our pastor gave a sermon about the Vikings’ practice of burning their boats upon landing on a foreign beach.  They did this to prevent acts of cowardice that would undermine their chance of success in their fight ahead.  It seemed more likely one would fully invest in the cause since the only other way out was death.  He likened this strategy to how we should approach our walk with God.  You have to be all in to do it well.  No shying away or ducking out when things get uncomfortable.  While God is the most significant application for this mindset, I think most aspects of life can benefit from it: marriage, careers, parenting, etc. Once Sissy was here, the boats were burned, even if we didn’t immediately realize it.  There was no going back to a childless life on evenings and weekends, and it was in everyone’s interest to give ourselves over to the infinite demands of parenthood if we were going to do right by her.  The same goes for the bike tour, it is in everyone’s interest for us to be all in to enhance family cohesion, maximize exploration and adventure, and to enjoy some quiet (even if accompanied by a ripe aroma).   After all, the boats are already burned: we do not own a motorized vehicle, nor do we have a house or home in which to retreat.  But every morning there is a new horizon on which we can gaze, new sights to see, new people to meet, and new obstacles to overcome.  We are still figuring it all out, but we are figuring out our new normal nonetheless.

Leaving refreshed from a well-fed time in the company of great friends:

The look of hunger. That burger was as big as her face and she ate it all without hesitation:

Hat Rock State Park: It was the first distinctive landmark near where Lewis and Clark finally met the Columbia River and where we began to diverge away from it.

 

 

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13 Responses to Burned Boats

  1. Becky De Lijster says:

    Love love love this! Preach girl! You are living the truth. Thank you for sharing this… eagerly awaiting your next post 😉

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  2. That’s the hardest thing I’m having to do as a parent. Realize that things often aren’t as I had hoped and dreamed, or even thought. But you have to keep going on. Enjoy the burgers when they are there.

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  3. Kim says:

    Was glad to see an email notification that you had posted again! Very much look forward to hearing about your adventure. Stay safe!

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  4. Gwenneth says:

    Well, I’m laughing and crying all at the same. Life is definitely a journey and praise God for His faithfulness. You and your family continue to be an inspiration! I want two dozen of your books.

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  5. Mary Roberts says:

    Loving the read! And your faith that our Father is by your side all the way 🙂

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  6. Life is always a journey. Trusting God for all of it is sometimes difficult. Praying you will be able to continue this journey and look back and see the amazing things God has will show you!

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  7. Mary says:

    You may need to think about that you have not been living this way for very long – no one has adjusted yet – even if it feels a long time, give it some time and enjoy the not bathing for awhile! Be safe and know that the Lord is with all of you. Love you guys.

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  8. Ted Kaiser says:

    Fantastic post; thanks for sharing! It’s fun being both painfully envious of your opportunity and quite the opposite all at once….

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  9. Tina Berg says:

    Hi Melanie! I get so excited when my inbox has a new post from you. Love hearing about your adventures! What a great pic of your daughter and the hamburger. Can’t wait for your next entry!

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  10. michelle says:

    So, so much love and encouragement to you all. Thank you for this post.
    I’d come hang out with you if I could, stink and all!!

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  11. Karen Hurley says:

    Life altering, thoroughly memorable journey. God speed!

    Like

  12. Lisa Toner says:

    Love this. Keep pedaling!

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